Borderline Versus Psychopath

How Borderlines and Psychopaths Differ

 

Borderlines and Psychopaths look a lot alike. They both may have little conscious control to be appropriate when it needs to be. A psychopath may sound charming but it is deceptive. The Lower Nature of both can be quite big. A lot depends on how they were raised.

They both have healthy perception, as shown by Ant and Bee. But they listen and look not for reality but for their alternate realities. Geru is small and not wise, and Crow can be leader of the Lower Nature gang. They both have a small Geru and a larger Crow. They tend not to have a lot of wisdom or enough understanding of themselves to change without help. They may live in their own reality that confuses them. They may be irritable, impulsive,  reckless, and even suicidal.

Underlying a Borderline is anxiety, fear of loosing relationships. Borderlines can have a normal loving heart. But borderline hearts can cry like a baby and threaten to have a tantrum if abandoned, or over love and later change and want revenge. What has shaped their style of behavior is the lack of a trustworthy or stable mother figure. That may because of the mother’s personality or because their mother has been removed by situations, such as an abusive home and the mother is a victim, or perhaps the mother is grieving or depressed to the point that they can not do mothering. 

The biggest difference between Borderlines and Psychopaths is that Psychopaths tend to not know what love is. They are not empathetic, only pretend to be. They also have little to no fear. Empathy and fear of hurting others is our guide to stop hurting others. Wisdom also can teach us how to properly act. But that comes from good parenting by good parents. A socialized psychopath will be benign, they may go into dangerous occupations as they have little fear. But if they have been raised in an antisocial environment and or abused they my be dangerous as they can be impulsive, do what they want without regards for others, and feel no remorse.

So How Do They Interact And What Works To Change Them

Both of them can be charming at first. She is trying to find a friend, someone to validate her. He is just trying to enrich himself, make a buck.

She will make herself vulnerable, the spiders trap. But she is desperate in her tornado of emotions. But at the bottom of her soul she is afraid of rejection, her fear can drop her into her Lower Nature and the battle is on.

He takes the bate and is interested in what she can give him. But he has little or no fear. It’s just another day of business. There is nothing to loose short of death and he is not afraid of that either.  How will this end? She will get took. If it had been a relationship and children were involved they would separate, fight over custody of the kids. She may act up and bust his car up, they go to court, he probably would win as he looks cool and collected, and then he may give the kids to a female relative, and go on to the next victim.

So How Can They Change

She would need to go to counseling and get over her fear of rejection, forgive her mother for having been a victim of someone or something. This would release her heart to love and trust and find a good person who could appreciate her. And, him, well, he would have to stay on the straight and narrow for a couple of years with out manipulating others, until he is in the habit of flying right. Then he could be in a fair relationship with someone who is ok with his inability to love.