Every Day Is Halloween

Social Fears, Everyday Is Halloween
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Feeling ISOLATED, the one man out. Wanting to get back at those who seem to not care?

When we feel others are by passing us, ignoring us, we feel isolated, alone, our needs for others company is not being met. We are a herd animal. We feel our best when we interact in a positive way with others. If we were not born loving to be alone we may fear others.

We can easily get angry, mad that others are so rude. Or we may feel we are inferior and not worthy of their attention, but still they should nurture us. Our Lower Nature can be quick to judge them as being rude and neglectful. We may even want to get revenge.

The ghosts of our past: parents who told us we were no good, siblings that made fun of us, friends or classmates who tantalized us with bad remarks, they all are ghosts of the past that swirl around us carrying on the ridicule and telling us to give up. So revenge may sound good to us, at least it would give us something to do besides sit and suffer. So off our Lower Nature goes to get revenge, to get back what we felt we never got, to trick and not treat them as they did not treat us. Time to go TRICK OR TREAT WITHOUT THE TREAT!

Victims can be anybody or anything or only people that remind them of the ghosts from the past.

Now the games begin. They lie or deceive to blind others, are selfish and so steal their goodies, they blame others not themselves, and start fights, in this case a food fight as Crow directs the kid to put the pumpkin on the girls head.

As long as the Upper Nature is too small to direct otherwise the Lower Nature will direct us to create havoc. This will go on until someone stops us or we are able to stop ourselves.

So how do we stop ourselves? We can read for advice or ask others. Or even begin to feel bad about what we do and decide we need to change. So what are the steps to stopping?

We have to muster up the courage or just make the choice to just yell at the top of our awareness, STOP! This is an alert signal, even the Lower Nature will stop to see if there is danger around.

Now we have to make the conscious decision to ignore all the nonsense of the Lower Nature’s advice, of lie, cheat, blame and steal, and return our dark side to the position of submission to the Upper Nature. It will shrink as we focus on the right things.

How do we do that? First we must feel empathy for others, that will turn off the fear. Our nervous system is a one way street, we either emanate hate or love, not both at the same time. We also have to insist we will be patient and not get fun and excitement from wrong doing. We make a conscious choice and we blindly follow it, as we did when we followed the wrong choices. We just do what is right until it becomes a habit.

We wait, patiently feeling empathy and love for the other. We focus on them, our energy now is for them. This makes the Lower Nature return to passivity.

As Empathy and Patience grow allowing Geru and rightful thinking to grow again and Fear and Impulsiveness to shrink, then consciousness, Mr/Ms Do, grows also. We are again balanced. Now we can join others in the fun things. And we soon find out that most others never did really ignore us, they though we were ignoring them!

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