8. Ordeal
The Supreme Ordeal may be a dangerous physical test or a deep inner crisis that the Hero must face in order to survive or for the world in which the Hero lives to continue to exist. Whether it be facing his greatest fear or most deadly foe, the Hero must draw upon all of his skills and his experiences gathered upon the path to the inmost cave in order to overcome his most difficulty challenge.
Only through some form of “death” can the Hero be reborn, experiencing a metaphorical resurrection that somehow grants him greater power or insight necessary in order to fulfill his destiny or reach his journey’s end. This is the high-point of the Hero’s story and where everything he holds dear is put on the line. If he fails, he will either die or life as he knows it will never be the same again.
Cuz succeeded to get BJ. Was he a hero. He had not accomplished the most difficult of his journey yet. To win over his Girl Friend. She was impressed with what he did and felt he was a hero, but something was still missing. He had to remember what Grandma had talked to him about relationship and how to win her over. It was time for him to think seriously about how to live in the world of women. He will now put it in practice rather than blindly try and fill his void.
He reviewed her four lessons of how to use the Upper Nature in relationships so both parties are feeling free of games and abuse so the Lower Nature, Survival mode, does not take over where others becomes the enemy.
Hollow promises are easily seen through as promises that can not be kept. Step one, perceive correctly our loved one’s reactions so you know they see you are sincere and observant.
Without fear for the safety and the happiness of others and without the guidance of empathy we are psychopathic, and our Lower Nature controls our then weak Upper Nature. Survival mode takes over as if others are the enemy.
Love is about safety and meeting our needs for correct perception, emotions, thoughts, and actions
No blaming, its about fairness and balancing our actions and needs with theirs. We must be fair, not our needs over theirs and then they are free to also be fair and not put their needs over ours.
Is love a fight? Do we force love? Or do we change ourselves to adjust to the other person. The best definition of intelligence is adapting to our environment and others such that we and others are safe and happy. Well, our Hero in the making has been brave and rescued BJ for Christmas, will he feel like a real Hero by humbling himself to be a real partner in a relationship. He has sincerely tried his best, brave but sensitive. What will be her response?
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Chapter Nine: Reward (Seizing The Sword)
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