All Children Must Take a Journey from dependent childhood to independent adulthood. On this Journey they must learn to perceive the world realistically, have reasonable control over their emotions, problem solve and plan, and learn the skills and habits of successfully being happy and helping all life survive. It is our job to prepare them so they have a successful trip. Parenting can make or brake, improve or discourage, celebrate or shame, etc.
To help you explain the concepts, I will be going over, to your children for fun or instruction I have included in most of the posts a cartoon of the journey of four upper nature characters and four lower nature characters. The following key will help you understand the cartoons, that help understand the concepts.
It is all about ‘Me’, ‘Myself’, and ‘I’ responding in different Environments to go forward and explore life. A child must learn how to recognize his dragons, use or fight his dragons, plan his course ahead, and proceed with actions. The Key below shows the 8 main child characters in the cartoons, who their pets are (the key shows widgets but the children’s pets will mirror them), and which concepts they and their pets represent. I will explain cartoons to make it easy to follow and you can improvise to meet your child’s level of understanding.
There are four steps, in a feedback loop, that the brain takes to explore and survive in this world, Perception, Emotional Evaluation, Plan, Action. Then the loop starts over adding more information as we go through life. In growing up children learn more facts for each step and ways to improve on each of the four steps.
Along side of the information each post will contain a little bit of a story of the journey of Psychotoons’ 8 ‘kid characters.’ This is for you and your children. I will also go over any questions you want me to include. Fell free to ask, ask and you shall receive. Let me go over the four steps briefly and the widgets, or little icon animals, that represent each step.
(1) In the first step we want to help them perceive the world as realistically and correctly as we can for their age and ability to handle it and remain healthy and happy. In order to perceive the world a child has to observe, listen, touch, smell, and taste different things and basically perceive the differences and similarities between things, and then to see the principles and patterns of the world. With animals we help children see how they are similar or different, the pattern of senses, limbs, internal organs, etc. We help them see the differences say between a mouse and an elephant, or a land horse and a sea horse. Then we help them see the patterns in nature, which can lead to zoology by the time they are in high school or junior high. Ant and Bee see details and patterns.
(2) Step two sets the stage for children to also see the emotional differences and similarities of people and the underlying principles of ethical and moral behaviors. So in the second step or stage we want to help children control their fears so they are not over reacting to benign situations but feel secure and confident. We want to help them also express their love and and see the patterns and array of human emotions and be able to use these emotions to help them be stable and to treat others in a stable moral and ethical way. In other words we want to help them learn how to be happy and social at the same time. Macho cat represents fears and Cuddles the dog represents love. The icon of the heart will correspond to the dog in our story, Molly’s pet.
(3) The third step is the thinking stage, helping children have models of thought so they can build a belief system that helps them in the first stage of perceiving the world realistically, responding emotionally in a realistic way, and then in the fourth and next step behaving in a functional way. When children are able to think and identify various things and emotions in their environments and see the different patterns of how others think they are better able to pick and choose the right ethical and moral standards to implement. Children can learn the four stages of the brain so they can assess themselves and others and help build their widgets. Geru the garden variety of bird represents the third step as he flies high enough to see the overall picture.
(4)The fourth step or stage is to help children cultivate their talents, interests, and habits to best empower them to set goals and act on them in such a way that they are able to achieve success in the areas that make them happy and do not interfere with other peoples behaviors that are also functional and healthy. Turtle is patience and Rabbit is energy, internal and external.
Children that have not been taught how to improve these four steps often join gangs for adrenaline fun, or for revenge on others, or they may be too isolated and introverted to function. So they may then draw upon their lower nature steps of lying, greed, blaming, and aggression. These are the same four steps as above, perceive-feel-think-act, but were developed by nature for survival mode when in eminent danger, so the four steps become deceive-greed-blame & justification-aggression.
There is a time and a place for these steps when our survival is truly in danger, when others have compromised our well being for their own unhealthy deception, greed, blaming or revenge, and aggression. But that time and place should be overseen by the Upper Nature and not solely by the Lower Nature which is a primitive part of the brain without positive or altruistic thinking. It is designed to take quick self centered action without thought. In real danger it saves us, but to live in that mode soon hurts us and others and results in chaotic behaviors in children.
The four stages of the brain need to be balanced as much as possible so we are not distracted from the overall picture of life. For instance a child or an adult may engage in observing flowers or the television to the exclusion of safety or sensibility. Or a child may become a drama king or queen and stomp all over the feelings and fears of others. A child may over think everything to the point of not enjoying life. Or a child may act out or be so impulsive that they are not safe to self and others, or are tormenting or bullying.
Every person and child has a personality. That personality is determined by our biological strengths and weakness in the four stages of the brain. For instance, a child may be a ‘nurd,’ and not very sociable. Or a child may be extremely moody by nature or by bad experiences. A child may be a natural deep thinker, or shallow thinker, a mathematical thinker,philosophical thinker, rational or non rational. And a child may be ADHD or extremely shy.
In raising these children we want to help them with all the stages keeping in mind that there are limitations for them or unreached possibilities of developing their different stages. We want to help them develop in a way they, that no mater who they are biological, they will be happy and adjusted so they can achieve and fit in to the world in the best degree that benefits them and those around them. Mr. Do, consciousness, conscious choice, should be the director of our lives, not Dragon. Mr/Ms Choice, says,
‘Thats my job, to make conscious choices and help the widgets develop, get strong, and balanced so that ‘Myself”,the body, doesn’t get into too much trouble. Otherwise Dragon above rules and things can get wild.’
If you have read all the pages in the navigation bar, or not, you are ready to help start the Journey with your children. I use a story of the Journey to help you explain to your children in a story language that they can easily understand. Children love stories and learn best within a story. Why? Because that is how the brain works. It takes facts and makes a model or an emotional story to link the facts together in a meaningful and action packed way. If you get confused as to the concepts of the characters please read the other pages at top of the web page, especially page three, the which contains the Key to characters and concepts.
Our story will begin with the land of Everywhere where two kings rule, in situations your children will encounter in the world out side of the home. We start here because you will be preparing them from infants on and so need to know what they need to be strong and confident on in their journey. Page 5 has the story and will be added to weekly until the story is complete. It will say when finished.
The story is in the Blogs, and put in an order that you can start at the top and read down like a book.
FOUR STEPS TO HAVING SUCCESSFUL CHILDREN
Afraid your children are too scared or are you tired of children not listening, talking back, not doing their chores, or teenagers that are running amuck. Worried and don’t know what to do? We are here to help you have loving, respectful, children with a good future ahead of them. Or if you have children or teens that are ADHD, have Asperger’s, are autistic, learning disabled, or otherwise need special help, you deserve help and support.
Have trouble with welfare or foster care systems? We can coach you through it. Tired of unrelated tips and techniques to use on children that are hard to remember and seem to be illogical. We will present them to you in a meaningful and easy way to remember. We talked about the four things to remember in the previous pages. Let me summarize them again and go one step further, combining them.
FOUR THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND AND FOUR THINGS TO REMEMBER
KEEP IN MIND: ME, MYSELF, AND I, AND THE SITUATION AND ITS RULES WHILE REMEMBERING THE FOUR STEPS OF THE BRAIN
THER ARE ONLY FOUR STEPS TO REMEMBER (key of widgets and characters at very bottom of page)
The four steps of the brain are a feedback loop that plays in this order: Perception, Emotions, Thinking, and Doing. We perceive, feel fear or love, plan what to do about it, and then act. When the four steps are positive and social we call it our Upper Nature, the ‘Me’.
When the steps are negative self-centered we call it the Lower Nature of ‘Me.’ The Lower Nature is our survival mode and when in the survival mode we are less socialized. The survival mode, our Lower Nature, dwells in the lower older part of the brain. If the Upper Nature does not control the Lower Nature, then the four steps of the brain, become Deception, Greed, Blaming, and Bullying. They are represented in the key at the very bottom of the page as different widgets. The Lower Nature is more connected to ‘Myself,’ the body, which loves mischief more than the Upper Nature. When children are in their lower natures they are not very cooperative. They are in nature’s survival mode, it is robotic and overrides the upper nature if the environment is perceived as unsafe.
‘Myself,’ is the body with its inherited ability to see, hear, taste, smell, and touch. These vary with each child as does their innate emotions of fear or anxiety and their love and social abilities. Our children also differ in cognitive or thinking abilities just as they very in physical abilities, some children form habits easier then others. So each child starts out responding differently to the world around them according to the abilities they were born with, or the abilities they have after traumas that may cause brain injures. We need to have a pretty good idea about their innate abilities as that determines how they will react to us. Age is the biggest changer of the body. Older children often can learn a lot faster in many things and usually understand us better.
The Upper Nature is guided by Consciousness, Mr/Ms Do or ‘I’ also called Mr/Ms Choice, an ego, and tends to make good choices. The Lower Nature is driven by Dragon, sort of an alter ego, who makes quicker but selfish choices. If the Upper Nature is not developed well the survival mode has a heyday. We want to keep our children in the Upper Nature so that their conscience is operated by correct senses, good emotions, the best of thought, and good behavior. It is their ‘I’ that tries to determine which widgets they want to use, if they want to be attentive or deceptive, social or greedy, clear thinking or whimsical thinking, and good behavior or bad. If their ‘I’ is strong it will choose well, if it is weak the Lower Nature will rule.
The Environment and good or damaging experiences can influence our ‘Me’, ‘Myself’ and ‘I’ (or Dragon). Education, socializing, and developing talents, habits, and skills can help our Perceptions, Emotions, Beliefs and concepts, and Actions. We must provide a safe and loving environment for our children to help them stay in the Upper Nature, be healthier and pleasant, and cooperative.
Part of the environment and the trick of parenting is to make sure your ‘Me,’ ‘Myself,’ and ‘I’ along with Situations are also healthy. Everything we teach here can pertain to you also. There is no difference between the inner dynamics of us and of our children except that of age of development and lack of experience. If we are not up to par our children they may at times be wiser and more correct in things then we are. To fight them when they are wiser will only end up in a worthless struggle between us and them and who can win from that?
The INTERPLAY of these four factors, ‘Me’, ‘Myself’, ‘I’, and Situational create our Personalities. It influences and determines our personalities and adjustments. Yes, our personalities and our children’s personalities change as we grow. We want to perceive keener, be happy and motivated, grow wiser and more patient, and succeed at what we do as we get older. We want success and successful children.
TO SUM IT UP
EVERY CHILD AND EVERY PARENT IS DIFFERENT
We want to help YOU, according to your make up, see how YOU can best help YOURSELF and YOUR CHILD, according to their make up.
We will help you to raise your children and also, if needed and wanted, will counsel or coach you on improving YOUR Upper and Lower brain, ‘Me’, for success and how to consciously help YOUR ‘I’ be a better executive of the brain’ to direct and improve on the ‘Me’ and help YOU teach YOUR children to do the same, to give you tools to continue to become a more passionate family and community member. This will include how to change the ‘Environment’ to augment your efforts and teach your ‘Myself’ to use abilities, habits, and talents to be safe and successful.
The key to all the concepts.
you have a child or children who threaten to burst your bubble, drain your dreams, and stop your boat from being afloat?
Its all about the wills, yours or theirs. That is human nature. Children are no different then adults. They want their way. And they will do what it takes to get their way. They watch and study you and then implement their plans. If you let their ill conceived plans work on and off or all the time you will get a persistently naughty child. When their ill plan works on and off it is very hard to change their minds on it. It is like a gamblers addiction. They do not know when they will win but just that they are bound to win sometime and so failure is just part of the game.
The best kept secret is that children want to please you. It is in their nature, makeup, evolution to please you. If it was not, parents would of refused to have children and the human race would of disappeared. So what is the switch, the switch from wanting to please to fighting you for their own will. Or you could ask what is the switch to turn on their desire to please?
This blog will look at those questions and begin to give you answers and techniques to having pleasant obedient children that will grow up to resist the ‘bad crowd’ and seek out success and happiness while making this world a better place for all of us.
You may think this is a hard thing to do, too complicated to figure out, too much to remember. Rest your mind, calm you anxieties. There is ONLY FOUR THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND AND FOUR THINGS TO REMEMBER. The four things to keep in mind are Me, Myself, and I, and the situation. The four things to remember are the four steps or stages the brain goes through over and over, they are Perception(from our senses), Emotions of basically fear and love, our Beliefs or thoughts, and our Actions or skills and habits.
How do these four things to keep in mind and four things to remember help us understand ourselves and others to the point of controlling our wills and successfully directing the wills of others? That is what I want to explain to you in a simple and graphic way.
The animals and figures that represent these concepts in the key below I call widgets. When the widgets are balanced we are at our most efficient and cooperative self. You can teach your children how to balance their widgets and their cooperation follows. I will use the widgets in cartoons to help make it easy and fun to explore. Basically, I want to help you learn to fish not just give you fish. When you understand the principles behind the techniques you can explore and invent your own techniques that work.
I WANT TO TEACH YOU HOW TO FISH.
You will learn to fish on yourself also, to bring your widgets in balance. Then you are the best resource of what to do, as your culture or traditions vary, and you will modify any techniques we give you.
You have the instinct to parent. But your parents or others in your childhood may have mixed up your widgets a bit or made them weaker. Don’t worry, it shouldn’t take too much to straighten you out. If you can not, well, we will try and coach you on how to work with who you are, your personality, so you can do the same for your child who may have a lot of your genetic make up. You could say, you were made for each other.
If you or your child were born with some hard to handle traits, or disabilities, or conditions that make it harder or just different to balance your or their widgets we will coach you on skills to cope and to help you and your child be the best they can, or in many or most cases better then if the problems never existed. We can even look at your family dynamics that may be getting in your way or the way of progress for your child and coach you on better coping and interacting. Perhaps what you need most is some understanding and personal support. We would love to do that too.
It will make more sense as we go. The next page gives you a better model. The posts will put it into practical situations on how to learn to fish.
Keep Your Boat Afloat
This is a blog about the inner experiences, problems, and issues we all may have in different situations us or all of us to survive in the world. We were meant to live in Nature under Natures rules. But we invented cities, states, nations, and different cultures or sets of expectations and rules. This confused us all. How do we untangle it all and get back to the basics?
In a way we people are Robots. I call the body ‘MYSELF,’ the mind I call ‘Me,” there are four main components, or widgets, of the mind (1) perceptual senses, (2) emotion (fear or love), a (3) thinking, and (4) patience and energy. The widgets work in the order I gave them. First we see, then fear or want, then plan, and finally act. When the widgets work together they make an efficient machine. But the parts do not always work well nor work well together. In order to get the parts to work better and to work together ‘I’ was invented, ‘consciousness.’ The job of ‘I’ is to tinker with the widgets and keep them balanced so that ‘MYSELF’ is an efficient Robot capable of completing missions. That takes a lot of hard work. ‘I’ and widgets are called the Upper Nature.
But my maker also included four more ‘Me’ widgets, similar to the four above, to protect ‘Myself’, but if these four act without danger they can be evil. They are (5) Deception, (6) Greed, (7) Blame, and (8) Aggression. To help them work together Dragon was created. You could say Dragon is part of ‘I,’ an alter ego. Dragon and survival widgets are called the the Survival mode, or Lower Nature. They are not very advanced and need the help of the Upper Nature to act correctly.
So ‘I’ has to keep control of the four good widgets, to help control the four evil widgets, to keep control of Dragon, so ‘Myself’ acts in healthy ways and protects other Robots in the Robot family. In real danger ‘I’ may need Dragon and the evil widgets for survival purposes.
To get ‘Myself’ to complete survival tasks can be quite a job because each widget changes from one ‘SITUATION’ to another. And then ‘I’ has to recalculate as to how to tinker with them all to get the balance back. And if a Robot needs to sacrifice ‘itself’ for the family, well, ‘I’ may have to totally override ‘Dragon.’
STORY PART ONE
The land of Nowhere can be anywhere, everywhere, or no where. In the land of Nowhere lives a large Dragon, Dameon. Beware and be good as this Dragon is fierce, does not care who he hurts. He whirls flames very where, and his shadow casts darkness on the land. His roars send children every where to hide under their covers as he stalks the land in the rain throwing his thunderous voice everywhere.
In the morning Grandpa was telling the kids that daylight chases Dameon away so there is nothing to worry about so do as you please.
‘No,’ instructed Grandma, ‘even in good weather and daylight Dameon and smaller dragons pillaged the city. They fly over groups of people that are being bad, we call them Group Dragons.
Larry’s Dad and Uncle has taken Larry’s little sister BJ from her mother and BJ is very unhappy. Larry’s Dad and Uncle have a group Dragon, you can not see them until you enter the world of magic.’
Our story has 8 little heroes. Skinny Ragde, Our brunet Charlotte, Destiny with black hair, and Larry tend to be mischievous, they teased skinny blond headed Edgar, black haired Molly, blond headed Sue, and George so they have a group Dragon. Ragde, Charlotte, Destiny and Larry began to tease the others saying, ‘You are sissy kids, mama children, you are not tough like us. We are as tough as my dad, he owns the factory and kicks your parents butts. You are afraid of Dragons, we are not.’
‘Group Dragons grow as pocket dragons grow,’ said Grandma, ‘and pocket dragons grow when you tease and act up.’
‘Pocket Dragons?’ they all inquired.
‘Yes,’ continued Grandma, ‘every person has an even smaller dragon, a pocket
dragon of their own because everyone can act mischievous or do things that others do not like such as lie, be greedy, blame or hit another.’
When people let their pocket dragons grow the group dragons grow larger and fiercer, as group Dragons grow Dameon also grows and people in the city grow afraid.
‘But,’ Grandma admonished, ‘just as everyone has a pocket dragon, they have a pocket Warrior when we are trying to do right. Remember you can not see them until you enter the world of magic.’
‘But,’ continued Grandma , ‘just as there are group dragons there are group Warriors. All the warriors grow when we try to do right as a group. They will control the group dragon and pocket dragons.’
Ragde, Charlotte, Destiny, and Larry said to the other kids, ‘No way will you pansies ever control us. We are tough and you guys are weak. Our pocket dragons will keep our group Dragon stronger then your Pocket Warriors or our Group Warrior.’
‘How do you know?’ inquired Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George, ‘you can not see them.’
Grandma hesitated and the spoke again, ‘Remember you can not see them until you enter the world of magic. To enter the world of magic you must have a goal, a dream to aspire to.’
Grandma continued, ‘Larry, Molly, Sue, and Edgar try and do good things for others. As their pocket Warriors grow, their group Warrior will also grow. As the group Warriors through out the land grow so does Empatha, the ultimate Warrior of the land, to fight Dameon.’
“When the Warriors in Nowhere are not able to keep the Dragons in check’, continued Grandma, ‘everyone becomes afraid and it is up to us all to make sure our Warriors grow. When you try to do right the world becomes magical and you can do great things, that is if you try to do right.’
‘No, Grandma,’ said Ragde, Charlotte, Sue, and Larry, ‘We are tough. No pansy Warriors will ever beat us. We have more fun then they ever will. We enjoy teasing the others.’
ADULTS only to read blue to selves. In our story there are two worlds, that of the kids and that of their dragon’s and warriors. We will call the stories Reality and Fantasy. Type in Blue is not part of the story but is an adult explanation. In reality George’s father was elected as Governor so he could make laws of fairness, so no one would be a bully tyrant. Parents can explain the reality of the story if they please. In Fantasy:
Because the Warrior Empatha, flew over the land to keep Dameon in line, s/he was elected King (Queen?), a good king, to make sure people followed the rules. When the people followed the rules the pocket Dragons shrank and all the Warriors grew. Everyone was happy as there was peace in the land.
All the great Warriors fought back Dameon and the land prospered. Dameon was unhappy, he wanted more, he wanted to fight back so he took Larry’s Dad’s factory and made it his factory, and in this factory he made an evil spell to mesmerize the people of the land. He put the spell on everything he made and sold. The people that bought his wares began to get apathetic and sat around and quit helping the good King in keeping rules that kept the land safe and free. As all the dragons grew so did Dameon and he again began to intimidate the people of the land to take away their freedom. When the people were too afraid and their Warriors shrank Dameon made himself a King also, the Evil King.
To reverse the spell the Good Warrior King, Empatha, declared that the royal prince, her son, and the princess, daughter of the Evil Dragon King, were to get married. This would break the spell.
Dameon wanted to stop the marriage so one dark night Dameon stole his daughter from the prince and locked the princess in the highest Tower of his hidden Castle. No one could find her to rescue her.
In reality the people were addicted to gadgets or substances made by Larry’s Dad’s Factory and were mesmerized and idle and led to believe that their tom foolery was benign. People neglected to keep the laws in their favor. Interest groups changed the laws to the advantage of the big business tycoons who put down family values. Family values were needed to turn people from addiction to take responsibility again. But Advertisers will dispel the concept of family values and push for only addiction. Next pic not part of story unless you want to explain story meanings with kids.
The Good King Empatha sent out a decree for help. ‘The good King wants heroes to help him find his son’s fiancee,’ blurted out the good king’s scribe to the public, ‘the daughter of the Evil King.’
The Evil King sent out a decree to warn people not to listen to the Good King and not to hunt for his daughter. ‘Anyone who helps the good King will be our enemy,’ yelled the scribe of the evil King.
Our eight little heroes looked at each other. The four little Warrior kids wanted to try and help the good King, but the other four children did not want to for fear of the Bad King becoming angry.
Larry, Charlotte, Destiny, and Ragde said ‘we do not want to help, we like dragons, what could we possible do?’
Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George (the Warrior Kids) said, ‘It would be an adventure. We could see who can find the Princess, Warriors or Dragons. We could see who is stronger, Warriors or Dragons. Grandma said it depends on who tries the hardest.’
The others wanted to take on the challenge, ‘but,’ they said, ‘what can you do?’
The kids gathered together away from the crowd. Edgar and his pet Ant and Bee said, ‘We could help by scouting the area for bad Dragons’
Molly and her pets, Macho and Cuddles, said ‘We could calm the land with our caring.’
Sue and Geru, chimed in and said, ‘We could make a map.’
George with Rabbit and turtle, added, ‘We could rescue the Princess.’
They did not know how to do any of that. But together they chimed in ‘WE CAN TRY, OUR DREAM IS TO FIND THE PRINCESS.’
Just then a magical dream horse appeared. Their pets changed to magical widgets forms and joined the horse. Macho the scary cat became a yellow skinny cat. Cuddles the loving dog had became a heart shaped puppy. Their group warrior Consciousness and group Dragon appeared with the widgets.
Larry, Destiny, Charlotte, and Ragde laughed at the others and yelled they would steal the horse and just do as they please as their widgets Coyote, Crow, Raccoon, and Spiedie would grow as the others widgets would shrink. What a horrible feeling for the other four kids, Edgar, Molly, Sue and George. They wanted to give up. They did not know how to find the princess as no one else did either. It would be so easy just to let the others steal the horse. With that thought their widgets shrank.
But George, Sue, Molly, and Edgar knew they needed to do what was right and try to find the princess. They knew that to help others they had to be brave and declare what they feel is right. So they yelled back, ‘No, we rule, we do what’s right.’ Immediately their widgets grew and the others shrunk.
Off they rode on their journey to find the princess. But what do you do to begin to find the Princess when no one else seems to know either. Perhaps the Horse will know what to do. Perhaps not. But they were determined to find out.
We have to decide to what is right and grin and bear the fear of being scrutinized by others.
Off though the air the horse rode with the Warrior and his widgets as the children rode their bikes below and Dragon and his widgets ran behind. ‘We are on our way to the land of the fairies and Pixies,’ announced the Magic Dream Horse.
When they reached the land of the Fairies and Pixies they encountered a Pixie chasing a Fairy in a cloud of magic.
The Warrior asked the Fairy if they would help them find the Princess by looking around the land. The Fairy answered, ‘ I can’t, the Pixie has just caught my heal.’
Ant and Bee stepped forward and addressed the Fairy and Pixie, ‘We have the torches of truth. Carry these lights and we can see truer, better. We will all look for foot prints or any change that might tell us where they went.’
Spiedie yelled and the Pixie again yelled, ‘No way, we will not help but only lie.’
Dragon chimed in, ‘Bravo Spiedie, that’s my little buddy.’
The Kids knew they had to make a decision. That group Dragon was too big and it was scaring the Pixies.
Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George confronted the others saying, ‘Your pocket Dragons are too big. You have to decide to make them shrink by cooperating with us. Then the group Dragon will shrink and Spiedie too. And then the Pixies will not be so afraid.’
‘Why should we,’ the others totted back.
‘So we can have this adventure. Unless we go on the adventure we will never know if it was worth it and we will all be too afraid to do anything and we will all be bored. Warrior has to lead with Dream Horse or the Pixies will be too afraid and will not help us nor let the Fairies help us. Please, cooperate.’
Larry and his three friends, like all kids, wanted an adventure too. They began to change their minds, an adventure would be fun. As soon as Ragde, Charlotte, Destiny, and Larry relented and agreed to cooperate a little more their pocket dragons shrank and so did the group Dragon.
Pixie shivered and confessed, ‘We will help but we are still afraid of the evil king.’
Horse with a pensive look replied, ‘Then we need to go to the land of the witches to get the shield of courage. Meanwhile, look for anything that has changed, what is the same as we go and what is different, and maybe we can see the path they took with the Princess, maybe she left signs for us to follow.’
The Fairies, with the Pixies behind, began their search close to the ground, among the darkness of piled leaves, to see if a clue was left by the Evil King when he hid his daughter. Warrior and the horse headed for the Land of the Witches. Warrior and his Upper Nature Widgets had grow a little more.
The kids went to the TV media station to talk to Edgar’s father who tells the truth and Ragde’s father who does not. They were both afraid to tell the truth because Larry’s Dad, the factory owner and richest business tycoon, may get them fired.
Off they went to the land of Witches leaving the pixies and fairies to scour the land looking for clues and the kids on their bikes below. They seen the witches huts through a hole in the clouds. Down they went through the hole.
There was smoke coming out of their roofs. The witches were making brews. The children on their bikes were not far behind.
The kids were catching up to them as they came close to the door of the Evil Witch.
They all stood outside the hut. Not sure what was inside. The Widgets and Horse looked at Warrior and Dragon waiting for them to move. An ominous danger seemed to be in the air.
They all went inside and the Evil Witch snatched some of Larry’s hair and dropped it into her brew. A Ghostly apparition of his father arose from the brew. His hideous laugh scared them all. Macho and Rabbit grew along with Dragon and all his widgets.
The Ghost pointed at Larry and said, ‘follow me or I will come after you and destroy you all.’ It then laughed hideously. ‘You, Larry, you were never any good, you will never be free of me,’ screeched the Ghost.
Larry ran outside and to the Good Witch’s hut yelling, ‘I need the shield of courage. Let’s ask the Good Witch.’
They all followed him over to the other hut as the hideous ghost laughed behind them.
The good witch took hair from each child and dropped it into the caldron. As it fell a ghostly apparition of Larry’s mom appeared. She said.’ Stick together as one, love each other as one, and keep close to the horse of dreams and you will prevail. Then I will give you the shield of courage and the sword of honor.’
The children and widgets had a wave of love come over them all, like a spell, and in the place of the ghost the sword of honor and the shield of courage rose up from the caldron. The Warrior and his widgets grew as the Dragon and his widgets shrank.
The Warrior Mounted the magic horse of dreams with the shield of Courage and the sword of Honor.
The children beseeched, ‘Where shall we go. We are lost. We do not yet know where the princess is.’
The horse said, ‘We will go to the land of the Wizards and seek out their directions.’
So off they go to land of Wizards with Warrior riding the dream horse out of the clouds with the Shield of Courage and the Sword of Honor. Dragon and his widgets were behind in the clouds and the kids below on their bikes were under the clouds.
In reality the kids went to Charlotte’s Mom’s dive to see it they could help with getting Larry’s Dad to stop selling so many gadgets. They were addicted and loyal to Larry’s dad. So they went to Molly’s mom, the counselor, and all she could tell them was to love each other for courage, that love helps us do what we are afraid to do otherwise.
LAND OF WIZARDS
They soon see the Huts of the Wizards.
They entered the land of Wizards. The Good wizard greeted them. He said the Fairies and Pixies had scoured the land and found the tower with the Princess in it over the Mountain on the other side. He jerked his magic wand and a map appeared. It showed a straight and narrow path up the Mountain.
‘But,’ warned the Good Widget, ‘the trail up the mountain is traitorous and hard to go up as the dream horse can not fly up nor climb but will have to he pushed and pulled up. But sense there are 8 kids, eleven widgets, a Warrior, a Dragon to help the Dream horse you should have no problem climbing up the Mountain.’
The Evil Wizard flicked his Magic Wand and pointed to the MAP below the mountain.
He said, their is a much easier trail, it may take longer but it is fun and easy.’
The map showed the trail to start on below the straight and narrow. It went into the dark woods in the opposite direction.
The Evil Wizard said, ‘On this trail you can all go by yourselves, you do not need the help of others to follow the path, you can all go at a different pace and take your time.’
‘How will we know where to go?’ asked Geru.
He flipped his magic wand and a CRYSTAL BALL appeared.
“This will show the way. Just look in it and it will show you what you want.’
The Good Wizard flicked his wand and a SACK appeared as he spoke and said, This (tax money)dust will keep the spell at obey. It will softened the spell for a while if it is sprinkled delicately on the town and they will be able to help you.’
Ant and Bee looked at the sack while Cuddles said, ‘Give the sack to Geru and Crow to spread over the land.’
But Spiedie seen the bag as Raccoon whispered, ‘It can all be ours and we will get rid of the spell on us and we can rule the town who is still under the spell. They will be our slaves.’
The good widget was about to say, ‘The dust only works when a little amount is sprinkled. If a lot is in anyone’s possession it makes the spell worse.’
But before he could say anything Crow whispered to Macho fear, ‘We need to steal the sack now or you may not ever get any of the Wizard dust.’
Macho fearful of loosing out on the dust pushed Cuddles away from the sac as Crow yelled, ‘We deserve it all.’
Spiedie covered the Warrior, and his Widgets with cob webs as Coyote ran over them and grabbed the sack before the good widgets could get it.
Dragon spit fire at George saying, ‘I will shrink you. We will get to the Princess before you and warn the Evil King that you are coming, and we will rule the city with the Evil King.’
Warrior lifted his shield of courage and Macho calmed down and no one shrunk. The Shield of Courage had protected them.
The four so called sissy kids and the warrior and the Upper Nature widgets would go up the Mountain by themselves. Wizard turned and told the Warrior to keep an eye out for Trolls as they got nearer to the Evil Kings Castle where the Princess is hidden away in a tower. And to remember there were good Elves that maybe able to help them in need.
Warrior, his widgets and the four kids on the horse of Dreams said good by to the Wizards and started up the Straight and Narrow path.
Ant and Bee scouted ahead, Molly with Macho and Cuddles made sure the path was clear of all dangers, Geru flew above to see if their was an easier path and telling Sue if they needed to change their map. Edgar, Molly, Sue, George, Rabbit, and Turtle pulled and pushed The Dream Horse up the trail. The Warrior talked to them all so they each knew what the other was doing and would come to their aid if one needed more help.
The PATH was indeed hard as the Widgets and Warrior pushed The Horse of Dreams up the Mountain.
At about half the way up the Mountain they came upon a cliff. There did not seem to be anyway around it or up it. Trolls were coming up behind them. They were trapped. They found a cave to hide in hoping the Trolls would not notice them and turn around and leave. The trolls were huge.
They were not in the cave very long when they heard noises further in. Very quietly they explored and came upon a Dragon, a very huge Dragon. It was Dameon. He could smell their presence and began to roar.
“You are in my CAVE,” he bellowed. ‘The Trolls have found the entrance and are now behind you. You are Trapped. If you want passage to the other side you have to pay me in a sack of Wizard Dust.”
Warrior approached him boldly with the Shield of Courage and beseeched him saying, ‘Let me and my Dream Horse through so we can go back down the Mountain and obtain our Wizard Dust, as it has been taken by our friends. On my return you will let us through to climb up the rest of the Mountain.’
The Dragon agreed but added, ‘You must leave as hostage your Widgets and Children.” He would give him only the time it took for the HOUR GLASS to empty.He pointed to the exit for Mr. Do and the horse to take.
Warrior agreed and the Dragon let Warrior and Dream Horse through and retained the Widgets and Children. Warrior was in another trap, he had to obtain the Wizard Dust for the Dragon, the same dust he needed to sprinkle towns folks for help. He also knew the Dragon would not release his Widgets and Children. He now had to go down the Mountains and find and fight his own Group Dragon and return to fight Dameon in the cave and the Trolls. He had no help to get his Dream Horse back up the Mountain.
Off they went down the Mountain, on a trail that did not pass the Trolls, passed the Wizard Huts, and down into the Easy Path. It was wide and appeared to be easy but there were huge holes, it was dark and eerie, and there were paths everywhere leading no where. It was a huge maze. But where were the others? Time was running out, the hour glass was letting sand fall.
DESPERATELY THEY SEARCHED They came upon some spider webs, the Warrior, also Consciousness said, ’Spiedie will be hiding under these.’
They began to clear out the webs and sure enough they found Spiedie and Ragde. Spiedie and Ragde were glad to see them as they had been in the web a long time alone not knowing where to go as they could not see clearly but all was distorted. They climbed up on to the Horse.
They all came to a hill and a path going into the valley.
Geru said, ‘Raccoon and Charlotte, his pet, want to keep all the Wizard Dust, so they will be weighted down, they will take the path going down.’ So down they rode. Sure enough they found Raccoon and Charllette. They too were happy to see someone, the sack of Wizard Dust was very heavy and they were tired of dragging it. They too got on the Horse.
They had the dust and could now go back. But they needed more help to again get the Dream Horse up the Mountain. The Warrior, Consciousness, said, ‘Quiet, I hear Crow in the distance. So off they flew following the squadk of Crow.
‘Where is Destiny?’ inquired Warrior?
Crow said she is following the Crystal Ball to untold treasures, but every time she gets there someone ahead of her has taken the prize. You will find her below this tree crying as she threw the crystal ball and it broke into a million pieces.’
They all flew down and she too climbed on the Horse. The children were heavy and the Horse was beginning to pant. They had yet to find Larry, Coyote, and Dragon.
Warrior exclaimed, ‘Be very quiet and if you hear of a fight there will be Larry and Coyote and Dragon.’
They all got very quiet. A fellow was going by and they asked him if he had heard of any fights around. He directed them to the North but cautioned them that the fight was very fierce.
Off they flew to the North. Soon they seen a ruckus up ahead as a lot of dust was in the air. Sure enough it was Larry and Coyote fighting their own Group Dragon. (Fighting themselves?)As Coyote and Larry’s pocket Dragon had grown, so had the Group Dragon. The battle was out of hand, Dameon had grown huge and his flames from his mouth were red hot. Time was running out. Something had to be done. Warrior had to make a decision to act. He decided to use the Group Dragon to fly back to the cave. But he had to subdue the Dragon. (Moral of story, you have to use your Upper Nature to use your Lower Nature, or survival mode, correctly.)
Warrior told the kids to take out their pocket Warriors to fight the Pocket Dragons to distract them so he could fight the Group Dragon, that this had to be a coordinated fight. They all needed to fight together if they were to win. The pocket Warriors grew as the pocket Dragons began to shrink, and along with them the Group Dragon began to shrink and loose his fire.
Warrior said, ‘I have to outsmart the Group Dragon (with the UN). When I have the Dragon Down I want you all to jump on him, that includes Horse. I will yell NOW.’
As the pocket Warriors fought the pocket Dragons Spiedie covered the Dragon’s eyes with webs, Raccoon Distracted him with the Bag of Dust, and Crow entangled his legs with a vine making him stumble. Warrior took three big breaths of air and lunged at the Dragon putting his arms around his neck.
’NOW!’ he yelled. As the Dream Horse, widgets, kids, and picket Warriors jumped on Dragon, Warrior cut the vines with his sword of Honor and away they flew directing. The hour glass was about empty.
They flew back to the mountain to save the others. (Moral of story, we have to recognize we need help, repent of past behavior, have humility, fight our old urges, and be renewed)
They had to made it back before the Sand hour was up. A lot of Trolls had came and were watching the cave so no one would escape. Dameon still would not allow them to pass. He wanted their Widget Dust, all of it. That would mean the spell would go on forever and eventually everyone would be prisioners of Dameon and very very sad.
BACK AT THE MOUTAIN
They had made it back before the Sand hour was up. But Dameon still would not allow them to pass, he would not even let them return down the Mountain. He wanted their Widget Dust, all of it. That would mean the spell would go on forever and eventually everyone would be prisioners of Dameon and very very sad.
A lot of Trolls had came and were watching the cave so no one could escape. The Group Warrior knew that Dameon was too big for eight children, their widgets, and himself. Even if their Group Dragon pitched in Dameon was too big and powerful for them all to escape.
They needed a plan. They needed to sneak out to get Empatha’s help, and sprinkle the dust on the city to make an army big enough to continue up the Mountain to free the Princess to Wed the Prince and bring peace.
Group Warrior told the kids, widgets, and Dragon that ‘Unless we can get past Dameon we will all be trapped in the cave for ever. But if we all work together and make a plan and followed my directions, to coordinate us, we may be able to sneak by Dameon and the Trolls. This is plan.’
Warrior exclaimed in a very quiet but firm voice, ‘We will wait for Dragon to go to sleep. We will need to be very observant and careful, Warrior and his crew is good at that. Dameon and the Trolls will not respond to love, logic, or our fighting so sometimes we have to fool them so we are not the victim of their foolishness, so we need group Dragon and gang to help. So we must all work together, warriors and dragons, to sneak out without Dameon awakening and taking our sack and without the Tolls stopping us’
‘We need keen eyes and ears to find our way in the dark and not stumble,’ cautioned Warrior.
Bee, Ant and Edgar volunteered to lead the group.
‘We need someone in tune with danger, who can tell us what to look out for, and who knows when to love, so we do not get angry and do something to wake up Dameon or alert the Troll guards that we are leaving by acting threatening.’
Molly stepped forward and said, ‘I, Macho, and Cuddles can do that.’
We need a good planner, to help us do this right,’ added Warrior.
Sue declared, ‘Geru and I will asses the whole situation and help guide the others where to safely step.’
Warrior also stated, ‘We need to be patient but brave and keep up the pace. We need someone to set the pace so we do not run into each other.’
George said, ‘Rabbit will bounce where we need to go, and Turtle will keep him patient and slow him down when needed.’
We also need to disguise ourselves.
Spiedie and Ragde chimed in, ‘We can do that. We will weave a tube of webs around us.’
Charlette and Racoon stepped up, ‘We can appeal to the greed of the Trolls by putting some of the Dust near them so they turn their heads.’
‘Then we need to somehow get them to to think all is ok,’ said Warrior.
Destiny and Crow together spited out, ‘We are good at that. We will blame Dameon for falling asleep.’
Warrior continued, ‘Someone needs to steal the Bag of dust from Dameon to be able to do that.
Larry and Coyote volunteered, ‘We are good at that.’
Warrior continued, ‘Ant and Bee lead, follow the leader, the one in front of you, Group Dragon will fly over his crew and I over mine. I will help all of you and Group Dragon to not over or under do things. So keep an eye on me for any last minute changes.’
So they made their plans and when evening came and Dameon fell asleep. Spiedie spun a web and Ragde helped Spiedie cover Dameon’s eyes. Charlotte and Raccoon Sprinkled Some Dust in the far corner and the Trolls turned their heads toward it and relaxed. As the Kids, widgets, the Dream Horse and Warrior slid by them with the sack Crow told the Trolls that the one who did not move the longest gets the dust.
(Lying and manipulating is only allowed when survival of self and others is really in danger.)
Everyone had seen them coming and gathered around the town. Group Warrior, Group Dragon, Dream Horse, kids, and widgets flew over Empatha, the people, the King, his soldiers and Elves next to the soldiers, and the Prince sprinkling them with Wizard Dust to awaken them enough to appeal to them, to form an army and go after the Princess.
So the King, his Elves, the town folks, everyone’s pocket warriors and group warriors, Empatha, and some of the towns folks all flew or marched to the caves. Dameon the Dragon had shrunk and he and the Trolls had gone to the Castle, where the Princess was in the Tower, to help the Evil King fight the on coming army now lead by the Good King. (Jobs for the people take away apathy.) Off they all flew to the top of the Mountain to save the Princess from the Tower and save the City by ending the spell the Evil King had put on the City.
A GREAT BATTLE began, everyone against the Trolls and bad dragons. It was a tie. No one was stronger then the other. With such a big battle and the Evil King so close, the children became afraid. This was the moment they all had worked toward, they did not want to botch it up. The Wizard Dust would work to soften people up to do what was right for only so long. If the battle went wrong the The Evil King would have them killed on the very spot. But they were not trapped, they could turn and leave the battle to the rest. The battle may go on until all were dead but they, the kids, would be safe. The Sissy Kids’ Geru widget said, ‘Listen to Cuddles, love, and not Macho’s fear.’
They stopped and thought and felt the love and muttered, ‘We must do what is right. We must try.’
The Bully kids listened to their Crow. Crow said ‘Listen to the other kids.’ Seeing their courage and not wanting to abandon them or to run scared muttered to themselves, ‘We must try and kick butt.’ All eight kids looked at each other and smiled, ‘We have cooperated before. Lets do this.’
Ragde said, ‘Dress up like trolls.’
They all got behind the Shield of Courage and muttered ‘We must do what is right.’
They walked past the troll guards nodding as if they were friends.
Sue said, ‘Look, Dream Horse and the widgets are searching for the Tower with the Princess in it.’
Sue exclaimed, ‘Look over there, Geru has found the Tower and is pointing at it.’
George with excitement spurted out, ‘We know where to go.’
The kids, with their shield of Courage and Sword of Honor weaved their way through the Trolls into the gates of the Castle, and through the Trolls in the Castle Court yard to the back Tower.
Larry wanted to fight them but George said. ‘Be patient that they are too strong.’
Sue said, ‘We need to out smart them.’
Destiny said, ‘We are dressed as Trolls, let’s tell them we are the new guards.’
Meanwhile Edgar and Ragde sprinkled Wizard Dust on the guard so they would relax. Edgar and Ragde then went up to them and in deep rough voices spit out,’ We are here to take your place so you can leave.’
The Two Troll turned and walked away.
Molly and Charlotte exclaimed in delight, ‘Now we can free the Princess, the lock is ours to open.’
But how? They did not have a key. They each shed their Troll clothes and tried to break the lock with the Sword of Honor. But to no avail. The Sword just bounced off.
An Elf was near by and said, ‘The Sword of Honor can break the lock but must be held by some one who can clearly see, like the Fairies, and see what others have hidden, like the Pixies. By someone who has great love, like the good witch, yet understand those without love, such as the bad witch. By someone who knows right from wrong, as the Good Wizard, yet can understand those who do not. And by someone who patiently does what is right and is not aggressive yet can deal with those who are aggressive. You each have one of those talents, cooperation makes you all stronger and able to accomplish the task, if all eight of you strike the lock together with the sword it will break.’
Then they all looked at each other and smiled, they all took ahold of the sword and together struck the lock. It broke and they opened the tower door. The Princess and Prince, who had just arrived, were reunited. The battle was still going on as they stole away into the night to get married and end the spell which would also end the great battle. Peace was restored to the land.
The Son of the King seen his princess and took her by the hand. The sight so inspired the city that more and more townsfolk’s joined the good kings army. Their pocket warriors had grown, their Group Warriors were growing as Dameon and the pocket and Group Dragons had shrunk or were shrinking. The immense army of the Good King was so overwhelming and brave with renewed strength that the Evil Kings army had to surrender. They all flew back to the city as they celebrated the wedding. And a grand wedding it was. The wedding reception was a fourth of July celebration with fireworks filling the sky. Peace had returned to the land once more.
They knew with the marriage of the Prince and Princess the cities curse was over, so would their magic be over. The Faries and Pizies, Witches Huts and Wizards Shacks, and Elves and Trolls were faded and gone. Soon the spell would be totally broken. The Dream Horse and widgets were fading and their real pets were fading back into real life. Life would return to the usual day to day operation, how boring. They did not want to return. Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George would again be doing their homework and helping their parents keep up the house.
Ragde, Charlotte, Destiny, and Larry began to feel life will be boring again. Without an adventure what would they do but to create problems to be solved. They would again make life miserable for Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George. The Dragon kids began to get rough and rowdy, and cut up, and tease the other four. ‘Mama Kids, sissy kids vs Daddy’s tough kids to the end.’
The Sissy, Momma kids laughed and said, ‘Your Pocket Dragons and the Group Dragon are growing and you will get lost on the Easy Path of Life like you did before. Don’t forget so easily your Dragons without our help hurt everyone. Warriors in the end win.’
But,” they retorted back, ‘the Dragon’s saved the Warriors who flew them to the cave and the city. Dragons could hold more weight then the horse. And a Dragon has to be stronger then the Warrior to do that.’
‘Yes,’ they answered, ‘The Dragon has to be strong enough to help the Warriors, but not so strong as not to be guided by the Warrior. On his own the Group Dragon was as lost as the rest of you. And without the clear wits of the Warrior you were not able to control the Group Dragon.’
‘Ok, that is true,’ they said thinking deeply, ‘what if, what if we made an agreement. We will help you if you help us.’
‘Good idea,’ said Grandma, ‘you could have lots of adventures. Together Warriors and Dragons can both have fun. Dad’s protect the Moms and the Moms protect the kids, so you can help each other. And look, look who has been returned.’
Violence, How It Works, so you can take back control of your world.
We tend to blame gangs and fighting on the kids engaged in it. We often fail to see the root causes, which may not be the kids themselves. Grandpa tends to blame Grandma for thinking anything is out of the ordinary.
Violence is ripping through our nation and threatening our youth. Street crime is mostly unseen. BJ is a little American Indian child in my cartoons and trying to save her friends and relatives.
If you watch and listen to the kids and what they are doing you will discover the world they have to live in that we may never see. That is what GM does.
If we do not watch our kids others will and they will use them for their own projects. That is often for crime. When kids are only hanging around the streets they are often targeted.
HOW THEY CONVERT YOUR SWEET KIDS TO DANGEROUS CRIME
Our Upper Nature has Conscious Choices and gets pleasure out of perceiving, feeling, thinking, and acting in everyday normal activities. But our alter-ego draws from our Lower Nature, the survival mode, and gets pleasure from deceiving with fantasy, greed, blaming others, and disrespecting boundaries such as being aggressive. When mild the Lower Nature may only show up in mischievous joking.
Ordinarily, our Consciousness is in control and helps our widgets, or human traits, focus and we stay in the straight & narrow and keep out of trouble. Our Lower Nature is kept small and also in the right path by Conscious choice.
When we believe that we are seeing danger, whether it is reality or not, adrenaline shoots to fear, fear alerts the alter egos that then sends his dragon fire on to selfishness, or save thy self, which then blames the sources it believes is causing the danger, and on to Coyote who pairs with Energetic Rabbit to take care of the business of survival. All of this can be alarming but pleasurable at the same time. Fear and pleasure are close, as when you ride a roller coaster.
When Fear and the Lower Nature take over, our Alter Ego and its widgets and Rabbit are greater than our Conscious Choice and its true perceptions, love, and reasoning. We get pleasure being feisty. And if Fear itself then shrinks, leaving the Alter-ego in charge, well, it can be right down evil. War Lords and Gang Lords will put your sweet child through life threatening situations or initiations to brainwash them to their way of thinking and life. The fear of death can flip the brain to the enemies thinking in order to survive.
Groups of people can act like a person, or a city, if the individuals or organizations and shops are dominated by a widget as shown above.
Just as fear can take over a person and send them into their Lower Nature ,as shown in the pictures at the top, so can a city or nation be gripped by fear and throw it into its Lower Nature, or what we call crime or the underworld, as shown on the bottom pics.
As shown in the picture on the bottom left, Mr/Ms Do, in this case George’s Dad, is the Mayor and runs a smooth city. The new is pretty accurate, there are human services such as counseling, people have good or peaceful belief systems such as churches, and City Hall is pretty much fair as can be. We will call this the Upper Nature of the city and in a healthy city it dominates the politics.
Dragon is Organized crime and ran by Larry’s Dad who in my cartoons owns most of the town and its factories. He a tycoon. He will bias the news, offer drugs and alcohol to feel better, supports the philosophy of fate, luck, and gaming, and produces addictive gadgets to dominate the markets. We call Dragon and his Widgets the Lower Nature, the Underworld. In the healthy city Dragon and his widgets are at a minimum. In a town dominated by Fear, or Macho, the Upper Nature shrinks and Crime dominates the politics.The Mayor’s power shrinks are the Lower Nature crimes grow, shown in pic on the lower right.
SO WHAT DO WE DO NOW?
We have to make a conscious choice to yell STOP! That alert will cause a pause as our real survival mode starts with FREEZE before it goes to FLIGHT so it can find an escape route and will only go to FIGHT if it is trapped. This gives us a chance to change the course of our widgets, to get a better look, better mood, better thoughts, and better actions that work without violence. The body genetically does not prefer violence because we can get hurt. Back in the day, thousands of years ago, medicine was not as good as it is today, a small injury could lead to death and so our feisty genes were not passed on to be dominant.
WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE AS A CITY?
Well, first, let’s look how Consciousness, Mr/Ms Do above in pic, deals with individual widgets. Mr/Ms Do has the Lower Nature shrink to allow the Upper Nature to work efficiently. Accurate perceptions are necessary and best achieved in an objective scientific way, emotions must be calm so fear does not activate the bias of the Lower Nature, which has no good memories and limited thinking, so blaming and one-sided thinking needs to be replaced with systematic thinking, and actions need to be patiently planned out instead of impulsive violence, and skills and talents engaged to do what works.
A city has the same steps but delivered differently as it involves many people.
Ok, this is not enough, could I be more specific? Well, this is a start, it show the intent. The main thing here is not let revenge or other ideology of freeze, flight, or fight. They only get in the way of working the system properly. Let look first at a dysfunctional city then what works.
The top picture shows a small Mr Do, the mayor of the city. He can only do so much. He can’t calm the citizens perceptions of a scary world, there is no funding for social services, the sciences are not in the news nor are spiritual beliefs, and people feel helpless and apathetic so the population does little politically to change things. This is a largely do to Rich Corporations that own or influence the news to augment their advertisements and get you to buy. They know that fear gets people to buy more, selfish or self-centered thinking does also, and they love to blame the government for everything they influenced the government to do that you do not like. News is an entertainment industry to install fear, wrongful blame, control your beliefs, and get you excited about their products. From their stand point it pays well, from yours you are lost and fighting the wrong things. You will then buy the wrong things, like unhealthy food, drugs, alcohol to access. If you buy into anti religious beliefs and dump your family you will buy more junk.
If you engage in civic politics and voice your opinions the Mayer becomes more powerful to demand legislation to appease you. It only takes 1% of the population activated to do that. Then the Mayor can yell stop to all the crooked stuff and start to demand, for you, that the local news give you the real and pertinent facts, social scientists will advocate fair and empathetic solutions to problems, scientific and holistic bird’s-eye views of how to go about bringing on useful change, and grassroots and other activist activities to create an infrastructure that meets your needs as a healthy person.
But be aware, the greedy will always find ways to misinform you, eliminate your interests, blame you or the people helping you, and tax or de-fund your efforts. You need to support with time, effort, or money those organizations that help you to be treated fairly and have you and your families happiness in mind.
*If you want to know what a character represents there is a simple KEY to ALL Toons in the navigation bar.
SCHOOLS HAVE BEEN PUT ON THE SPOT
What is gender? It is our tendencies to attribute certain behaviors and traits to one gender or the other. That is learned, but our traits, such as gentleness or roughness, loving or distant, may not be learned but may be genetic. Even if learned it may not be associated with gender, that is, until the schools have to define gender to children. What traits go with what gender? Psychologists and Sociologists can’t answer that question. How can the schools answer that? It will only add confusion to the subject. Children are not old enough to understand these complex concepts to tell the difference between gender, personality traits, and genetics. Why add to the confusion by telling them they can be a boy or a girl or both?
The problem with teaching children they can be a girl, a boy, or both is that Gender is not easy to define, and it is not the job of the school to help children do that. All humans have within them all human traits such as gentle, bully, intelligence, etc. but in various degrees, a little to a lot. This is what makes up our Personalities, not our gender. What traits or personality traits we want to define as male or female is cultural and learned from family and others who care about us. It should not be determined by others who do not care, or by other children who tease and tantalize each other, or by bullies. A graceful boy is not part girl. A tomboy girl is not part boy. To call our differences gender can be very confusing, especially to children. Any one human trait or group of traits does not belong to one gender or the other or any gender in-between, even if there were more than two genders.
We can believe we are one gender or the other or both but Why? Most boys want to be boys, and most girls want to be girls, not some combination. Boys compete to be tough and create a hierarchy of toughness from kindergarten and is at its height by fourth grade. Boys also feel awkward with girls until they hit puberty, unless they are family members. To tell boys they are also girls is to cause lots of confusion and competition to prove you are a boy and not a girl. Most boys want to grow up to be real men, not part man, part women.
Girls tend to be more emotional, more wanting to get and give love. This is not learned. Fifty to Eighty percent of our behavior is inborn. We are not born an unprogrammed computer. If life forms were, we could program our cats and dogs to do amazing things but probably not the right things for nature.
Children get comfort knowing they are like other children of their own sex. Not because they have learned to be but because they have a lot in common. To tell them they are not girls or boys but a combination is to cause confusion and anxiety.
If boys think being nice makes them girls they will have to act out more boyish, what they think is boy only behaviors, to try to be one of the guys. They have to be tougher or they will be told they are girls by other boys. As ‘part girls’ they are unable to compete to be a man’s man without the wrong connotations.
When I said human traits tend to go from mild to strong, that means about half the boys will be more mischievous and deceptive than the other half. Some boys pride themselves of being meaner. This may be learned from abuse, it is not a gender thing. Boys just act out with more physical strength, not because they learned it but because they have stronger muscles and more testosterone then most girls. Boys who rebel tend to be at the bottom of the boys hierarchy because bad behavior is not really considered by most boys as being tough. These boys may fight even harder with their bad behavior to try to go up the ladder. They can call the boys above them sissies not only because they are being nice like girls but that they are part girl to do so.
Once schools try to tell children what gender they are, or to what degree they are each gender by telling them what traits are girls’ gender and what are boys’ gender, it leaves certain children very vulnerable. Some children really identify with a certain gender role that fits them and their family. Why confuse them with someone else’s ideas?
To be a girl gender does a girl have to be more girly, and a boy more boyish or bullish so they do not have to be humiliated and teased by other kids when they fail the test for ideal gender?
To help a few students who have issues with their gender definition, or feel like both genders, we should not disturb a lot of other children. The gender definition is too complex for adults, we should not burden children with these issues. Let them be kids.
When people are confused as to their gender the industry of sexual addictions can more easily talk them into trying different sexual combinations of sexual encounters. This sets up people to allow sexual commerce to legalize various sexual activities that are not too popular or are illegal. The sexual addiction industry can grow and incorporate your youth as they experiment with various sexual expressions and get confused, addicted, and or distracted from other endeavors that may have led to better careers, relationships, and families. At the base of a healthy society is stable families that can meet the needs of children so the children do not look for love in all the wrong places.
School have no business teaching or be expected to teach children what gender they are. Schools should not try to save children from parents or their family or community culture. They can not determine the culture of all people nor should they be burdened with that task. They should not be defining culture for Christians, Moslems, Buddhist, Native Americans, Jewish, or any group. Determining which traits or personalities should make up a gender is neither scientific nor clear. Culture belongs to the people, not to the schools. To expect them to police culture is not fair to the schools or the students.
The Restroom Controversy
How many people are adversely affected by the restroom arrangement. Mom’s fear for little son’s going into the men’s room. Fathers fear for little daughters. Women fear about guys coming in or other sex arrangements. In the picture above only four guys to the left are carefree.
It becomes a battle between the majority and minorities of all kinds past, present, and future. Are there other solutions?
Controversy is a money maker for mass media. If new laws are enforced and tickets or fines given out there is money being spent. Taxes have to pay for the new law enforcements.
Why not create construction jobs for the general public instead of for government, and help everyone feel private and safe. No one feels trapped or left out. We the people, all the people, are involved.
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An Overview Of Widgets And Need To Balance Them.
The brain has a feedback loop that runs over and over in our minds and changes as we experience more of the outside world and of the inner world we live in. The first stage is our perceptions, our senses. The next stage is our emotional reaction to the perceptions. We fear or get curious to what we perceive. We want to run away or approach. You can easily see these reactions in babies or animals. They approach a new object slowly and either jump back or smell some more.
The third stage is to explore the object more, maybe play with it as a cat does a mouse or a baby with toys, and decide what to do next. In humans this can be a methodical or habitual, religious, philosophical, or scientific analysis of the object or situation and our ability to handle it. The final stage is to do something, to use our tools and resources or to gain more skills and habits to deal with it. The older we or the animals get usually the better equipped they are to deal with it.
With each turn of the feedback loop we change, for the better or worse, each stage. We may begin to look for certain pleasant things, habitually change our emotional reactions, change our thinking about it, and improve our actions. This process improves or our freewill. If we perceive less, react badly emotionally, think unrealistically, and act dysfunctional
I use animals to depict each stage of this Upper Nature process and call them Widgets. Ant and Bee see details and patterns, Macho scary cat and the loving dog Cuddles are emotions, wise blue bird Geru, and Patient Turtle works with Energetic Rabbit for functional behaviors. When there is imminent danger our brain falls into our primitive survival mode, I call it our Lower Nature. The four steps change in function. The first step is deceptive Spiedie, the second selfish Raccoon, the third is blaming Crow, and the fourth aggressive Coyote. They help us to lie, cheat, blame, and fight for survival.
A model functioning person’s widgets are all about the same size, but the Upper Nature ones are a bit bigger than the Lower Natures without danger. We can say they are balanced. There are no really big widgets interfering with the function of the others. But in the real world all widgets are of varying sizes depending on Genetics, experiences, beliefs, and habits and skills. If the widgets are unbalanced. One person may see a lot, feel little or too much, think negatively, and be aggressive. If the widgets are unable to cooperate in a functional way they need to be balanced.
Lets add to the above eleven widgets two more. Mr/Ms Do will be our consciousness. I shaped Mr/Ms Do body parts according how much we use them. This makes our mouths, hands, and feet really big but our limbs small. Mr/Ms Do coordinates the Upper Nature widgets and so is usually bigger than them in a well-balanced person. Dragon runs the Lower Nature and should be a bit smaller than Mr/Ms Do. We can call him an alter ego.
I have pictured the body as a blue mannequin named Myself. All the widgets dwell in the head but will walk around for cartoon purposes to help explain the journey. The journey is the struggles Myself has with balancing his widgets while going through life coordinating with or confronting other’s widgets. Other’s widgets can be individuals or groups (group widgets).