We can change our personalities by tweaking our widgets of perceptions, emotions, thinking, and actions by choosing with Consciousness to do so and keeping our Dragon in abeyance unless really needed for self-protection
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AN OVERVIEW OF PERSONAL JOURNEY
CONTENTS BELOW WITH LOTS OF PICS
I. HOW WE LOOSE CONTROL to the LOWER NATURE
C. UNBALANCED WIDGETS
D. RELATIONSHIPS, GROUPS, CITIES, etc.
HAVE WIDGETS THAT UNBALANCE OURS
II. HOW WE REGAIN CONTROL of the UPPER NATURE WHEN WE HAVE LITTLE WILLPOWER:
THE JOURNEY to Balance Your Widgets
III. GETTING HELP TO GAIN CONCEPTS FOR PERSONAL OR SOCIAL CHANGE
IV. KEY CONCEPTS
We can change our personalities by tweaking our widgets of perceptions, emotions, thinking, and actions by choosing with Consciousness to do so and keeping Dragon in abeyance unless really needed for self-protection.
This is the key to the main child characters, their tools, pets and corresponding widgets that make up their dominant personality.
You could say we have four determinants of our personality, that change the size and influence of our Widgets. Biological traits, that we are born with, determine the size and influence of our widgets, Childhood experiences also change our widgets sizes and influence, our Beliefs and concepts also change the widgets size and influence, and our Environment and interaction with the Environment changes skills that intern changes the size and influence of our widgets. As each widget gets bigger and stronger it will change the size and influence of the others, for better or for worse. Perception determines what the other widgets see, hear, & feel, Emotions assign values on what is seen, Beliefs can guide and/or change the first two, and what we can Do or not do changes the others. The lower nature also changes things for the worse or for survival. We can learn to make more wise choices and we can change our environments.
We build and/or socialize our personalities from past experiences, by choices in the present, and goals and expectations for the future. Thus we have an infinite number of possibilities to influence our personalities and the world. If you go by the Principle of Four you can begin to define and understand your personality and those of other people so you know better how to begin to make changes to change ourselves or others.
I. HOW WE LOOSE CONTROL TO THE LOWER NATURE
A. FEAR, THE SWITCH FROM UPPER TO LOWER NATURE
When we see a new person Myself, our body, gets a surge of anxiety for an instant before processing. Fear jumps up and our body, Myself, is electrified.
So lets look at what happens. Perception, Ant and Bee, sees the person. Our deceptive Lower Nature Spiedie by design will become apprehensive and search memory for dangers. Upper Nature fear, Macho, will kick in and alert for help. At this point the Lower Nature takes action, which is faster than the Upper Nature, and selfish Raccoon, blaming Crow, and aggressive Coyote jump into action.
This is a typical dialogue between widgets.
So off the Lower Nature goes to beat up the stranger taking energetic rabbit with them.
When we consciously realize what we are doing Mr/Ms Do will yell STOP! And if we have enough will power the Lower Nature will retrieve until further notice.
If we have enough will power Mr/Ms Do will tell loving Cuddles to calm Macho fear and tell Patient Turtle to calm energetic Rabbit so that wise Geru can give Myself better directions.
The final dialogue will look more like this. But our widgets must be strong or we will be a hot head, bully, or a trouble maker.
B. ADDICTIONS, THE DESTROYER
When there is brain activity, such as seeing something new, a spurt of brain chemicals will give us pleasure, will ring our bell. Mild fear can be pleasant if we are not in danger, love, pleasant thoughts, or patient actions can also be.
Even our Lower Nature can have pleasure being deceptive, selfish, blaming others or being aggressive.
But addictions can add so many chemicals that the brain is overwhelmed, just too much DING DONG going on. This does not have to be just substance abuse. Gambling, gaming, sex addictions, or any addiction that takes our focus away from others and the world can cause the same brain flooding.
What this does is to shut off the natural brain chemicals leaving the person’s brain a bone dry desert as the onslaught of chemicals dry up. The Upper Nature is then exhausted and not operating well. The Lower Nature is older and more primitive and can better withstand the onslaught. This can leave us to be deceptive or in denial, selfish and less empathetic, leave us with stinking thinking as rationalizing our bad behaviors, blaming others, and being active or passive aggressive and not meeting the needs of others.
C. UNBALANCED WIDGETS
For consciousness to be efficient to meet our plans and goals all the widgets must be balanced, about the same size, not dominating each other. The Upper Nature needs to be bigger than the Lower Nature.
If we get unfocused, scatter brained and are not aware of those around us and their needs we tend to become selfish. Our Lower Natures respond faster to situations then our Upper Natures and if not checked get out of hand and take over.
Or if any one of our widgets gets too big, such as we become very afraid or paranoid, that dominant widget can take over, control the other widgets, and leave our Conscious Choice, or Willpower, to weaken and struggle to maintain control. Again, the Dragon, our Alter Ego, and the Lower Nature can take control and even commandeer Rabbit for more energy.
D. RELATIONSHIPS, GROUPS, CITIES, NATIONS HAVE WIDGETS THAT UNBALANCE YOURS
We have to deal with others widgets. That can be a mess, confusing, and a challenge.
Groups of people or organizations have personalities of their own. Everyone in the organization contributes to the widgets by combining their personalities to create group personalities. This can be very challenging.
Our communities and cities are the combination of groups and together create a new level of Widgets that can confuse us, put pressure on us, and challenge us. We have the Upper Nature community that seems to push equal rights, and then we have the underground world of crime and inequality. They can be very threatening and take away our freedom getting us into hot water. Next could be Nations or perhaps all of human kind.
II. HOW DO WE REGAIN CONTROL of the UPPER NATURE WHEN WE HAVE LITTLE WILLPOWER: THE JOURNEY to learn how to BALANCE OUR WIDGETS
When the widgets of the Upper Nature and or Lower Nature are unbalanced, that is some of the widgets are too weak or too large to cooperate in helping the Mr/Ms Do, or consciousness, understand or assess the situation and decide what should be done without hurting self or others then the widgets need to be balanced so they make a better team.
People have biases and reasons to ignore all the facts, or seek out contrary facts, in order to feel better, or prove they are right for various reasons. This makes their Spiedies too large and their Ants and Bee’s, perceptions of reality, weak. When a lot of people in a community have the same bias they pressure this bias onto the TV station which intern will influence other members to embrace their bias. These deceptive ways of thinking can make people feel helpless, or unable to meet their potential for fear of the consequences, such as the belief the world is going to end on a certain day. Their Mr/Ms Do, consciousness, may become weak and unable to help their Ant and Bee, perception, see reality and make productive choices.
Then Mr.Do needs to coach Ant and Bee to see correctly, who, when, where, and how to observe, listen, taste, smell, and touch to see more clearly what is going on in the world. If Mr/Ms Do is able to coach Ant and Bee on how to do the research or see reality more clearly than their Spiedie shrinks. If enough people are able to do this then the Community and TV stations, or other groups, also begin to see reality in a more productive manner.
When fears of the past scare Macho and Cuddles we can become withdrawn, selfish, or have little empathy and be unpleasant. We may try to drink our sorrows away.
But if Mr/Ms Do helps chase the ghosts away the world becomes pleasant again.
When people insist that life is only Luck or Destiny our reasons for living get apathetic.
We have to look at more substantial data and have a good model of what people are all about and have more faith in what is right and therefore what works. Then we feel confident and able to do more activities, such as a career.
Sometimes we are too patient and we squash our energy. Mr/Ms Do will have to pull Rabbit away from Turtle, motivate Rabbit to get something done.
Or perhaps Rabbit is too eager to join Coyote and Dragon for mischievous fun that could turn into a disaster. Turtle with the help of Mr/Ms Do may have to bite Rabbits tail and pull him back. These two widgets need to cooperate and change their roles at the right time.
I have a child version of these journey concepts. These illustrations can give you an idea what their Journey may entail. Oh, did I mention the fairies, witches, wizards, and ogres? Myself, or our bodies, can be a stallion in this pursuit of Upper Nature versus Lower Nature, in ourselves, groups, or communities. Click Here for the child’s version.
III. GETTING PERSONAL HELP TO GAIN CONCEPTS FOR PERSONAL OR SOCIAL CHANGE
If you are a person who wants to get more perspective on the concepts already mentioned you can visit different Psychotoons web sites.
ONE: To UNDERSTAND WIDGETS AND PERSONALITY a bit better You Can:
GO to Psychotoons.blogspot.com and start with these blogs to understand how widgets make up personalities. Explore how different personalities affect family, beliefs, and jobs. Also is the a blog on Consciousness, and a blog to take a simple Psychotoons Personality Test.
OR You can go to You Tube and view the Video’s Personality 1 Introduction and the following Videos Personality 2 and 3. Personality 4 and 5 that go over the concepts and how to take the test and graph out our own personality.
OR Read Blog 8, which is this blog, by reading HOME and BLOG POSTS One thru Three. HOME can be accessed by clicking on HOME and the blog posts can be accessed through the Archives on the Left Side Bar and clicking on the dates March 2011 and October 2012.
TWO: Take the PERSONALITY TEST. It is located at psychotoonspersonalitytest.com and share your personality on Facebook.
THREE: Begin to learn how to improve your Personality by reading the PERSONAL JOURNEY on Psychotoons.net.
FOUR: Begin to implement your changes. Having trouble, WANT HELP?
If you want to ask QUESTIONS you have four options, two are private and two are not.
ONE: You can join my FORUMS. They are free and you can start one. Contact me if there is not response.
TWO: You can also leave a comment on this blog.
THREE: You can e-mail me at email@example.com for fairly short questions, just give it a try.
FOUR: If you want to get into an involved soul-searching discussion that will take some time and you are willing to pay for my time you can contact me through Internet Counseling, internetcounseling4u.com for e-mail or phone counseling. You can also connect with me at http://www.psychotoons.net/apps/webstore/ If you want a video session using Skype just let me know. Skype can be downloaded on the internet free. It is also a free internet phone app.
IV. KEY CONCEPTS
ONLY FOUR THINGS TO REMEMBER
There are really only four things to remember: Perception, Emotions, Thinking, and Doing. When they are positive and social we call it our Upper Nature, the Me.
The Upper Nature can turn into the Lower Nature when the four steps above become Deception, Greed, Blaming, and Bullying and I call it Myself, closer to the body.
The Upper Nature is guided by Consciousness, Mr. Do, to make good choices and the Lower Nature is driven by Dragon to make quick selfish choices.
The Environment can influence our Upper Nature Traits and Talents that help our perceptions, the Habits and Emotions learned from how we are raised, beliefs and concepts we learn, and how we met the demands of the particular situation we are in.
The INTERPLAY of these four factors determine our personalities. Yes, our personalities change as we grow, we usually grow wiser and more patient as we get older.